Children are the best medicine

Hi all! I have been on a bit of a hiatus for the last month. It has been the busiest, most stressful, scariest part of my life, with high highs (making the deans list) and very low lows (almost losing my mom). Through it all one thing has held constant, the love and joy I have when being around all my babies.

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It all began with my crazy course load this semester and having a final on the 23rd of December!! I was frustrated and defeated after studying for weeks. Then the night before a super tough final, Ruby spent the night at my house. No it may not have been the best way to study (try studying media ethics while playing princesses), but it was just the medicine I needed that week. I put her to bed in my room, and when I went to bed I captured this peaceful, precious moment. Ruby sound asleep under the Christmas tree I have slept under all my life 🙂IMG_2836

Following that was the holidays which are always crazy busy, but in the best way possible! That meant family parties, dinners, seeing my babies, and attempting to decompress from a difficult semester. I had 3 family Christmas parties in 3 days. So much fun, but so exhausting. Ruby and I spent on day going to visit Santa Claus, and it was perfection. Watching the magic of Christmas expressed in her eyes and words was so much fun. I was reminded why this time of year is so special to so many, the magic and hope brought from the holidays in and of itself is calming. Then of course I had to play Santa Nanny and visit all my babies and give them their presents! One present was a date night with my boyfriend (or Ruby’s boyfriend as she calls him), another was a tie blanket, and for another family, my all time favorite children’s princess movie ENCHANTED. Visiting them and being able to put a smile on their faces was the perfect way to unwind

After all the parties ended and things calmed down I had a minute to breathe- not very easily. I had come down with a cold a day after all the crazy ended. So my usual coping mechanisms of baby cuddles was off the table. I spent 5 days in bed watching Netflix (Damages is amazing!) and getting updates on how all my babies Christmas’ were 🙂 While in bed one day I got an email saying I made the Dean’s List! Given how hard my semester was I was hoping just to pass, so this was unbelievable. I was going into the first week of January on a high. Everything was going perfectly, and I had a trip to Chicago with my boyfriend in a few days to look forward to.

Then the unthinkable happened. The scariest moment of my life. I got a call that my mom was being taken, via an ambulance, to the hospital because she had had a brain bleed.IMG_3185 Everything stopped. My heart stopped. My mom, my best friend, my person was in danger of losing her life. After a very long night and copious amounts of tests, we were given the news that she was no longer in immediate danger. She needed to be hospitalized for a week because there was still blood in her brain which is obviously not good. I learned a lot in those first few days. I learned how strong I can be in the face of uncertainty. I learned every technical medical term known to man kind related to my mom’s brain bleed 🙂 and I learned how lucky I am to have such amazing support system. Of course my dad, brother, boyfriend, best friends, and extended family were there for me, but beyond that the families I work for were there for anything I needed. It was not only through the calls and texts I received about being there for me, but the flowers they sent to my mom and well wishes and offers for food or anything for me and my family. It was truly amazing. What I told most of them I wanted was to come babysit for a few hours and watch their kids as a little distraction and comfort 🙂

All and all my mom is on the mend and doing better. The uncertainty is scary, but I know if I ever need anyone to talk to I can call any one of the moms I work for and they would be there for me in a second. The relationships I have formed with the families I work for is an undoubtable blessing. Getting to spend time with all of the kids in my life is the best medicine and cure for any hopeless, scary situation. One moment spent with one of them and I am reminded of the wonder, innocence, and joy there is in every moment of life. After almost a week in the hospital my mom is back home recovering. I have spent the whole last week at home hanging out with her while she tries to get back to normal. Once Friday rolled around I couldn’t spend another week without my Ruby. It was the perfect day. Ruby, my mom, and I spent the morning together having breakfast, laughing, and playing. Seeing my mom getting back to being herself and joking around with Ruby was a moment I will never forget. All I need to be happy in life is my mom and my babies 🙂 (and my boyfriend, and dog, and best friends, and aunts, and uncles, and cousins… you get the picture).

 

I have some big things planned for The Nanny Guide this year so stay tuned! As always thank you for taking the time to read my blog 🙂

xoxo Kelly

© The Nanny Guide 2016

Be Thankful

Being thankful is something every kid (and adult) can sometimes need a reminder of. I know I try my best to remember how lucky I am for the life I have but life gets crazy and hard sometimes, so I forget. Kids are busy bodies with a million thoughts going through their heads every second. It is easy for them to forget to be thankful as well. While it is good to be thankful year round, Thanksgiving is a good time of year to take a second out of our busy days and remember why/what we are thankful for. It is a good time of year to reflect on your year and life and remember all the things you are lucky to have. It is important to do this with your children as well! Here are a few simple way to break out the gratitude and thankfulness in your little one 🙂

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  • List off all the people who are a part of their life who love them. This is simple and can be done quickly. Ruby and I have done it a few times on longer car trips. I say who loves Ruby? and she starts listing off mommy, daddy, Kelly, grandma, grandpa, etc. After we have listed off a lot I make a point to tell her how lucky she is to have so many people who love her and who she loves. Then I remind her that she should be thankful to have so many people on that list. It always boosts her mood and puts a smile on her face. I then follow that up with “next time you see _____ you should tell them how much you love them.”
  • Make a craft relating to Thanksgiving and being thankful . There are so many options with this, and it is a great way to teach kids the wide range of things they have to be thankful for. It is easy for kids to list off concrete examples like my blankie or my train track, but it’s harder to list of the more abstract ideas like family, friends, education, etc. While doing the craft you can teach them about the more abstract ideas. After they name their first few then you could say something like “well aren’t you thankful for having a nice friend like Abby?” A question like that will prompt their little minds to start thinking of things along that realm. Keep that discussion going! Here is a great list of 7 crafts that can teach kids about being thankful!
  • Remind them how lucky they are to be healthy and have full bellies. A lot of kids don’t know on their own that these are things some people don’t have. It is am important life realization to have because it is part of our reality. You want to be age appropriate in how you describe that there are kids who are sick and in the hospital or that there are kids who don’t always get to eat dinner. If you make things seem too bleak it may not register with them, but they are smarter than you think and can handle a version of the truth about health, food, and wealth. I leave that discretion to you, the nanny or parent. You know your child the best and how you think this discussion should go.
  • Donate food to a local food shelf. Tell your kids that since not everyone can buy all the food they want (or need) you guys are going to help them out! Bring your kids with and ask them what they want to buy. I have done this with Ruby and she usually gives some of her favorite foods. It a good learning moment because it causes her to reflect on what she likes and that well maybe another kid would like some Easy Mac as well! It teaches compassion and social awareness. Have them help you bring the food in to the donation site. Afterward celebrate their charity work with a fun snack or trip to the park. Let them know how proud you are of them, and that they just helped make a lot of people happier.
  • If your kids are old enough- volunteer! I have gone with school groups and my parents since I was young to Feed My Starving Children. At FMSC you pack meals for people in countries all over the world in dire need of food. They present the need for food in age appropriate ways, so you don’t need to be worried about it scaring you child. I have very fond memories of going there as a kid! It’s usually an upbeat environment with lots of laughter and good feelings. If there isn’t a FMSC near you, look for other local places that pack meals for the hungry. They are all over!

A few things I am thankful for this holiday 🙂

  • All my tiny humans!
  • My sweet, loving boyfriend
  • My amazing family
  • My education
  • The ability to travel
  • My best friend (even though she lives 1,000 miles away!)
  • The little opportunities each day brings to make a positive difference in people’s lives.

Being thankful for things we have isn’t something that is something that we explicitly say everyday, but hopefully there is a moment each day where you think about it. This is an important thing to instill in your kids. Learning to be thankful teaches kids humility, the importance of giving to others if you can, empathy, love, and a bounty of more skills. It will help them develop into compassionate, helpful, grateful humans.

On that note, I hope you all have a safe, fun-filled Thanksgiving! I leave you all with one of my favorite quotes that isn’t directly related to being thankful, but something I have learned as a result of being thankful.

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